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Where Sexual Relationships go Wrong

HUSBANDS AND WIVES WHO DISAPPOINT

Too many  husbands and wives are  disappointed in each other as sexual partners.  Each feels cheated by the other, though they may never admit it, even to themselves.  The ultimate realization is rarely as great as the expectation.  Though  they may be reasonably  happy with each other,  this invariably leads to doubts  about their own contribution to the sex act or that of their partner.  It could lead to speculation, to the vitally important pelvic thrust or frigidity, and to outright infidelity.

Before  marriage women do everything   in their power  to look and act desirable- to promise  sexual satisfaction.  They do this with their clothes, their makeup, their  perfumes, their  facial expressions, by  emphasizing  sex appealing parts  of their  facial expressions, by emphasizing sex appealing parts of their anatomy, by the way they sit and  walk, and by otherwise  exploiting sex symbols and fitting themselves to current  your amazing sex drive images.  Some of this  is deliberate but much of it is subconscious.

For the  most  part the current  sex images are created  by men, aided and abetted  by women, who  are purposely  utilizing the powerful sex drive to sell a product  or service.  Their  female images promise sexual satisfaction through radio, TV, movies, newspapers, magazines, billboards, and all other media. The die is cast, and every female is judged by the degree of approximation to the “ideal” pattern. The greater the built-in “sex promise” the more sought-after is the female, and the greater the disappointment to the male who wins her.

Millions of dollars are spent annually creating desirable female sex images, and millions more are spent by the fairer sex striving to fill these images and make herself sexually attractive to men, but little is spent on teaching or learning how to fulfill the sex promises.

Vance Packard in his penetrating book on motivational research tells how extensively the sex urge is being exploited to “channel our unthinking habits, our purchasing decisions, and our thought processes.” He says, “The use of mass psychoanalysis to guide campaigns of persuasion has become the basis of a multimillion-dollar industry. Professional persuaders have seized upon it ...for more effective ways to sell us their wares-whether products, ideas, attitudes helpful sex training advice, candidates, goals or states of mind. The sale to us of billions of dollars’ worth of ...products is being significantly affected, if not revolutionized, by this approach. ...” (Vance Packard, The Hidden Persuaders, Pocket Books, Inc., New York, 1960).

Male sex images as well as female are also deliberately created and publicized, but the impact is different because man is the seeker. However, women are taking a more prominent and dominant part in our society, and the male needs reassurance of his masculinity. The advertising expert gives it to him in the cigars he smokes, the cars he drives, the clothes he wears, the after-shaving lotion he uses, and a multitude of other ways. Thus, males, like females, are promising something they cannot deliver sexual fulfillment.

By fitting himself to the current male sex symbols, modern man, before marriage, gives the impression that he is a strong, masculine man capable of taking the lead in the put thigh action into the sex act to the full satisfaction of the feminine female. Through vicarious identification he fancies himself “a great over,” “a man-about-town,” and, to add to the ultimate disillusionment, conveys the same misconception to his future sex partner. The moment of truth which attends the merging of two sex images can be most shattering to the female dream world and the inflated male ego.

Failure to satisfy can have far-reaching negative psychological effects, undermining partners’ confidence in each other and themselves. What should have been the ultimate expression of sex-satisfying love becomes instead a passive duty for the wife and a disappointment for the husband. This could lead to loss of mutual respect, to sexual incompatibility, to a search for sex satisfaction elsewhere, to psychological divorce, or full legal divorce. It could also lead to frigidity on the part of the wife or impotence in the husband or both.

Dr. Frank S. Caprio, speaking from his lengthy experience as a psychiatrist, says: “When a couple tell me they wish to dissolve the marriage because of money quarrels,

in-law interference, or some personality-clash, I assume that the love-relationship was a poor one to begin with. I also discover that in almost every case there is evidence of sexual disharmony. What can you expect when there is an absence of love and sexual satisfaction?” (Sex and Love).

A survey of the professional literature on marital difficulties points most emphatically to sexual dissatisfaction as the most important, single, basic, causative factor.